If you’re a regular movie-goer like me, you will find scenes in lots of action movies and the likes where the protagonist is bargaining with the anti-hero (preferably the opposite sex, romance is a possibility), with something in exchange. Heavily referencing to a specific scene of Bruce Wayne offering Selina Kyle a ‘Clean Slate’ program, starting fresh seems too good to be true. However, isn’t that what we’ve been crediting for New Year?
As skeptical as I am, I’d like to give myself a chance. This isn’t some epiphany that occurred to me right on the first of January year 2017 [cliches aren’t my cup of tea, anyway]. There was this time when I felt a pang of regret in my chest when I knew that’s something is wrong with my body and I have to live with it forever. Nothing serious, but it’s serious enough to pose itself as a wake-up call. I mean, why do I kept disrespecting myself even though I knew I was slowly destroying myself? I wasn’t alcoholic, but I’d give in to any booze available on the table. I wasn’t depressed, but I locked in all my anxieties in a little box until it went ka-boom. I wasn’t eating sloppily, but I kept away the good stuff from my diet, knowing that I rely heavily on those.
Therefore, I’m pressing the hard reset. Following the decision to restart your life, these are the things you can do while you’re at it:
- Set Priorities
Start to reorganize your priorities for the year as the first step to sorting out your messy life (or if your life isn’t messy, good for you, I’m proud of you, I want to be you). I drew a mindmap to help me determine the areas of my life that need my focus. As for now, my priority is my well-being, positive people in my life followed by academics.
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- Find Your Muse
[Definition of muse]. Getting my life back together needs a huge motivation. I couldn’t count how many I’ve lost the fire in writing, dancing or even simply creating arts. I look up to Cassey Ho’s blog and Anna Akana’s (hard-core) inspirational videos. They give me a positive vibe all day long. They are my ultimate muse. Anyone can be your muse, though. Starting from your parents, friends, teachers, whoever (as long as they inspire you to do GOOD and better).
Know Your PassionDo What You Love
Honestly, the word “passion” itself is overused in many self-motivational books or articles I’ve read (maybe I’ve been reading the wrong books & articles, I don’t know). Every time I come across the word passion, I feel intimidated immediately. I couldn’t make out my “passion”. Therefore, I choose a simpler term: love. “Do what you love” sounds straightforward and natural, nothing too over the top. For example, I’ve always loved dancing. Am I good at it? I don’t know, who cares, I always feel in utter euphoria whenever I dance. Always spare time to do what you love every day, thus every night I would dance alone in my room (because I’m too embarrassed to dance public, though I had danced for a competition and university events before). To ante up my game, I occasionally go to arcades and play Danz Base (to be fair, their moves are capital h-a-r-d). Why? Just to know if I had the b*lls to dance in public, I’d say. Then maybe I would try posting my dance moves, which leads to another point…
- Share What You Love Doing
It was an instant love when a friend of mine lend me “Steal Like an Artist” by Austin Kleon. I was immersed in its content and I think it got me energized for the whole day. Don’t expect it to be deep; it was just simple and spot-on, exactly what I needed. That aside, it encourages you to share your work, no matter how bad it is. The point is to reach out to your audience and get as many feedback as possible, which will help you in getting to know what you can improve on next time. Even if it’s only one person who commented on your work, he/she showed that they’ve seen your work. If you don’t want any feedback, man, I don’t know what to say, you’ll never learn anything that way.
On a side note, to the guy who lends me the book, if you’re reading this I’m sorry I haven’t given your book back for a year. Soon, I..promise.
- Set Your Limits, Let Yourself Progress
Lastly, knowing realistically how far you’d go as you progress to reach your goals. It’s awesome to have big goals, but should you…Suddenly going to a 10k marathon without a weekly 2k-5k exercise? Big no. Tried that, didn’t work. So, be realistic. Be kind to yourself. Track your progress because it will make you feel determined as you reach your goal.
Pressing the hard reset seems easier said than done. Inspired by Amber Scholl’s recent video and her powerful quote:
“What if it doesn’t come true?
Ah, but what if it does.”
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Hi,
I wrote this in January 2017 but didn’t find the right time to post. One year of absence seems like I’ve forgotten about this blog. Truth is, I haven’t been able to write down anything. I poured all my energy to my academics, family, and close relationships.
Let’s have a little catch-up:
- Finished my final project and got my bachelor’s degree.
- Adopted a black Persian cat. She’s adorable.
- Had my hair cut.
- Got together with my high school sweetheart.
- Discovered Amber Scholl on Youtube.
- Subscribed to Girls’ Night In and I’ve never been so chill.
A lot of things have happened during my final year as a student. It brought the worst side of me and I lost some of the good people in the process. However, I’ve received tremendous support from my family and my good friends, and I couldn’t be more grateful.
To my wonderful support system, thank you for being a part of my uni life.
xx
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